SELF RESPECT / SELF ESTEEM / SELF IMAGE / PROJECTION
1. Look people in the eye.
2. Say thank you a lot, please a lot, write thank you notes promptly
3. Plant flowers every spring, plant a tree on your Birthday
4. Be the first to say hello
5. If in a fight hit first hit hard
6. Keep Secrets
7. Show respect to teachers and Military persons
8. Never mention being on diet
9. Smile a lot, It costs nothing and is beyond price
10. Introduce yourself to the manager where you bank. It’s important that he/she knows you personally.
11. Don’t waste time responding to your critics
12. Have a good posture. Enter room with purpose and confidence
13. Think twice before burdening a friend with secret
14. Respect traditions
15. Show respect for others time. Call whenever you’re going to be more than ten minutes late for an appointment
16. Patronize local shops even if it costs a bit more.
17. Get and stay in shape (Physically and Mentally)
18. Don’t bore people with your problems. When someone asks you how you feel say “Terrific” , When they ask how your business say “Excellent”
19. When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten up everyone’s day.
20. Evaluate yourself by your own standards, not someone else’s
21. Be a leader : Remember the one in front is the only one with a decent forward view.
22. Never admit at work that you’re tired, angry or bored.
23. Be prepared you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.
24. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
ATTITUDE
1. Compliment three people every day
2. Have a firm handshake
3. Live beneath your means
4. Return all things you borrow
5. Keep a tight rein on your temper
6. Praise in public, criticise in private
7. Avoid sarcastic remarks
8. Never cheat
9. Never deprive someone of hope : it might be all they have
10. Turn off the television when eating
11. Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel like it
12. Learn to show enthusiasm even when you don’t feel like it
13. Don’t gossip, don’t discuss salaries
14. Be courteous to every one
15. Don’t be afraid to say, I don’t know, I made a mistake, I need help, I am sorry etc.
16. When planning to go abroad, read about places you will visit
17. Don’t insist on running someone else life
18. Begin each day with some of your favorite music
IMPROVEMENT OF SELF
1. Be a student on some kind of class
2. Avoid over exposure to sun
3. Ride a bike
4. Think big thoughts but relish small pleasures
5. Take a brisk 30 min walk every day
6. Stop and read, historical roadside markers
7. Learn a foreign language
8. Pray not for things but for wisdom and courage
9. Be punctual and insist it on others
10. Lie on to your back and look up at the stars
11. Drink eight glasses of water every day
12. Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts
13. Be tough minded but tender hearted
14. Practice empathy. Try to see things from other peoples point of view
15. See problems as opportunities for growth & self mastery
16. Judge your success by the degree that you are enjoying peace, love and health
17. Refrain from envy. It’s the source of much happiness
18. When there’s no time for full work out do push ups
19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you will regret things you didn’t do more than the ones you did
20. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table. Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs
21. Be open to new ideas
22. Set short term and long term goals
23. Turn off the tap each time you brush your teeth
24. Own a good dictionary and thesaurus.
MEMORIES
1. Take lots of snaps
2. Don’t postpone joy
3. Take family holidays whether you can afford or not. The memories will be priceless
ACTIONS
1. Give yourself an hour to cool off before responding to someone who has provoked you.
2. Pay your bills on time always.
3. Have a regular medical and dental check up.
4. Fill your fuel tank when it falls below one quarter full
5. Don’t plan a long evening on a blind date. A lunch date is perfect, if things don’t work out, both of you have only wasted an hour.
6. Never take action when you are angry
7. When paying cash, ask for discount
8. Hear both sides before judging
9. When traveling put a card self addressed with phone number in your wallet
10. Don’t be intimidated by doctors and nurses. When you are in the hospital it’s still your body.
11. Don’t flush public toilets with your hand, use your elbow.
12. Save 10% of what you earn
13. Respond promptly to RSVP invitation. If there is phone call if not write a note.
14. Before leaving to meet a flight call the airline first to be sure it’s on time.
FRIENDS
1. Make new friends but cherish old ones
2. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
3. Be your spouse’s best friend.
4. Keep good company
5. Be tactful never alienate any one on purpose
6. Never walk out on a quarrel with your partner
7. Everyday look for small thing or way to improve your marriage
8. Save an evening a week for just you and your partner
9. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital
10. When you and your partner have a disagreement, regardless of who’s at fault / wrong apologize. Say I am sorry. I upset you would you forgive me? These are healing magic words.
11. Never give a loved one a gift that suggests they need improvement.
12. Be cautious about lending money to friends. You might loose both.
13. Choose your life mate carefully. 90% of happiness comes from this decision.
BUISSINESS/ PROFESSION/ JOB
1. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
2. Read carefully anything that requires a signature.
3. Don’t quit a job until you are lined up another
4. Never criticize the person who signs your pay cheque. If you are unhappy with your job, resign.
5. Remember that 80% of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
6. Learn to listen. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly.
7. Keep your watch five minutes fast.
8. Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years
9. Be tactful. Never alienate anyone on purpose
10. Never admit at work that you are tired, angry or bored.
11. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who help you
12. Everyday look for some small way the way you do you’re job.
13. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table. Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs.
14. Have a good posture, Enter room with a purpose & confidence
15. Be insatiably curious. Ask why a lot?
CHILDREN
1. Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring & integrity they think of you.
2. Encourage your children to have a part time job after the age of sixteen
3. Tell your kids often, how terrific they are and that you trust them
4. Respect your children’s privacy. Knock the door before entering their room.
5. Teach your children the value of money and the importance of saving
6. Take your kids to Zoo.
7. Attend your children’s sports day
8. When a child falls and grazes knee / elbow. Show concern then take the time to kiss it and make it better.
9. Read, Sing, and listen to your children.
10. Let your children over hear you saying complimentary things about them to other people.
11. Work hard to create in your children good self image. It’s the most important thing you can do to insure success
12. When playing games with children, let them win.
13. Hug children after your discipline them.
RELATIVES
1. Surprise loved ones with unexpected gifts.
2. Be tactful
3. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital.
MANNERISMS ETC
1. Wear polished shoes always.
2. Floss your teeth.
3. Take out the rubbish without having told.
4. Keep your desk and work area neat & clean.
5. Have impeccable manners.
6. Don’t you use a toothpick in public.
7. Compliment a meal, when you are a guest in someone’s home.
8. Give thanks before every meal.
9. Stand up when greeting a visitor to your office.
10. Never eat the last piece of cake.
11. Compliment even a small improvement.
KNOWLEDGE OF MUST
1. Be insatiably curious ask ‘why’ a lot.
2. Know how to drive a car.
3. Learn to handle pistol & rifle safely.
4. Learn to change a tyre, handle handsaw, hammer and nails.
5. Reread your favorite book.
6. Turn on your head lights when it begins to rain.
7. Don’t drive on worn tyres
8. Don’t ever lend your veh to one who does not posses a valid license and don’t drive if you are not carrying one. Ensure your veh is insured.
9. Don’t drive on someone’s tail.
10. Learn how to operate computers
11. Lodge a FIR if you met with an accident. If you are injured tell somebody to file FIR, if Mob has turned up escape to save yourself.
12. Don’t remove the veh or its position for Police has to inspect (If not your fault)
13. If accident note down the veh number of other party. Inform insurance company and your lawyer and Police
PEOPLE
- Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
- Avoid negative People.
- Be suspicious of all politicians.
- Give people a second chance, but not a third.
- Let people know what you stand for and what you won’t stand for.
- Lend only that book you never care to see it again.
- Never argue with police officer and address them as officer.
- Beware of the person who has nothing to loose.
- Don’t be deceived by first impression.
- Never pay for work before it’s completed.
- Resist giving advice concerning marriage, finances or hairstyle.
- Don’t believe people when they ask you to be honest with them.
- Every person you meet knows something you don’t; learn from them.
- Never discuss money with people who have much more or much less then you.
- Be wary about people who tell you how honest they are.
- Be there when people need you.
LIFESTYLE
- Own a great music system.
- Drive inexpensive car/ vehicle but own a good house
- Buy great books even you don’t read them.
- Keep a torch.
- Keep a daily journal.
- Don’t expect money to give you happiness.
- Discipline yourself to save money. It’s essential for success.
- Don’t think that a higher price always mean higher quality.
- Wear expensive shoes, ties, belts but buy them from sale.
- Remember three important things when buying a home location, location, location.
