Tips For Life.... Must Follow...

SELF RESPECT / SELF ESTEEM / SELF IMAGE / PROJECTION

1.                  Look people in the eye.

2.                  Say thank you a lot, please a lot, write thank you notes promptly

3.                  Plant flowers every spring, plant a tree on your Birthday

4.                  Be the first to say hello

5.                  If in a fight hit first hit hard

6.                  Keep Secrets

7.                  Show respect to teachers and Military persons

8.                  Never mention being on diet

9.                  Smile a lot, It costs nothing and is beyond price

10.             Introduce yourself to the manager where you bank.  It’s important that he/she knows you personally.

11.             Don’t waste time responding to your critics

12.             Have a good posture.  Enter room with purpose and confidence

13.             Think twice before burdening a friend with secret

14.             Respect traditions

15.             Show respect for others time.  Call whenever you’re going to be more than ten minutes late for an appointment

16.             Patronize local shops even if it costs a bit more.

17.             Get and stay in shape (Physically and Mentally)

18.             Don’t bore people with your problems.  When someone asks you how you feel say “Terrific” , When they ask how your business say “Excellent”

19.             When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten up everyone’s day.

20.             Evaluate yourself by your own standards, not someone else’s

21.             Be a leader : Remember the one in front is the only one with a decent forward view.

22.             Never admit at work that you’re tired, angry or bored.

23.             Be prepared you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.

24.             Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

ATTITUDE

1.                  Compliment three people every day

2.                  Have a firm handshake

3.                  Live beneath your means

4.                  Return all things you borrow

5.                  Keep a tight rein on your temper

6.                  Praise in public, criticise in private

7.                  Avoid sarcastic remarks

8.                  Never cheat

9.                  Never deprive someone of hope : it might be all they have

10.             Turn off the television when eating

11.             Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel like it

12.             Learn to show enthusiasm even when you don’t feel like it

13.             Don’t gossip, don’t discuss salaries

14.             Be courteous to every one

15.             Don’t be afraid to say, I don’t know, I made a mistake, I need help, I am sorry etc.

16.             When planning to go abroad, read about places you will visit

17.             Don’t insist on running someone else life

18.             Begin each day with some of your favorite music

IMPROVEMENT OF SELF

1.                  Be a student on some kind of class

2.                  Avoid over exposure to sun

3.                  Ride a bike

4.                  Think big thoughts but relish small pleasures

5.                  Take a brisk 30 min walk every day

6.                  Stop and read, historical roadside markers

7.                  Learn a foreign language

8.                  Pray not for things but for wisdom and courage

9.                  Be punctual and insist it on others

10.             Lie on to your back and look up at the stars 

11.             Drink eight glasses of water every day

12.             Never give up on what you really want to do.  The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts

13.             Be tough minded but tender hearted

14.             Practice empathy. Try to see things from other peoples point of view

15.             See problems as opportunities for growth & self mastery

16.             Judge your success by the degree that you are enjoying peace, love and health

17.             Refrain from envy.  It’s the source of much happiness

18.             When there’s no time for full work out do push ups

19.             Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you will regret things you didn’t do more than the ones you did

20.             Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table.  Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs

21.             Be open to new ideas

22.             Set short term and long term goals

23.             Turn off the tap each time you brush your teeth

24.             Own a good dictionary and thesaurus.

MEMORIES

1.                  Take lots of snaps

2.                  Don’t postpone joy

3.                  Take family holidays whether you can afford or not.  The memories will be priceless

ACTIONS

1.                  Give yourself an hour to cool off before responding to someone who has provoked you.

2.                  Pay your bills on time always.

3.                  Have a regular medical and dental check up.

4.                  Fill your fuel tank when it falls below one quarter full

5.                  Don’t plan a long evening on a blind date.  A lunch date is perfect, if things don’t work out, both of you have only wasted an hour.

6.                  Never take action when you are angry

7.                  When paying cash, ask for discount

8.                  Hear both sides before judging

9.                  When traveling put a card self addressed with phone number in your wallet

10.             Don’t be intimidated by doctors and nurses.  When you are in the hospital it’s still your body.

11.             Don’t flush public toilets with your hand, use your elbow.

12.             Save 10% of what you earn

13.             Respond promptly to RSVP invitation.  If there is phone call if not write a note.

14.             Before leaving to meet a flight call the airline first to be sure it’s on time.

FRIENDS

1.                  Make new friends but cherish old ones

2.                  Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

3.                  Be your spouse’s best friend.

4.                  Keep good company

5.                  Be tactful never alienate any one on purpose

6.                  Never walk out on a quarrel with your partner

7.                  Everyday look for small thing or way to improve your marriage

8.                  Save an evening a week for just you and your partner

9.                  Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital

10.             When you and your partner have a disagreement, regardless of who’s at fault / wrong apologize.  Say I am sorry.  I upset you would you forgive me?  These are healing magic words.

11.             Never give a loved one a gift that suggests they need improvement.

12.             Be cautious about lending money to friends.  You might loose both.

13.             Choose your life mate carefully. 90% of happiness comes from this decision.

BUISSINESS/ PROFESSION/ JOB

1.                  Stop blaming others.  Take responsibility for every area of your life.

2.                  Read carefully anything that requires a signature.

3.                  Don’t quit a job until you are lined up another

4.                  Never criticize the person who signs your pay cheque.  If you are unhappy with your job, resign.

5.                  Remember that 80% of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

6.                  Learn to listen.  Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly.

7.                  Keep your watch five minutes fast.

8.                  Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years

9.                  Be tactful.  Never alienate anyone on purpose

10.             Never admit at work that you are tired, angry or bored.

11.             Remember no one makes it alone.  Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who help you

12.             Everyday look for some small way the way you do you’re job.

13.             Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table.  Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs.

14.             Have a good posture, Enter room with a purpose & confidence

15.             Be insatiably curious.  Ask why a lot?

CHILDREN

1.                  Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring & integrity they think of you.

2.                  Encourage your children to have a part time job after the age of sixteen

3.                  Tell your kids often, how terrific they are and that you trust them

4.                  Respect your children’s privacy.  Knock the door before entering their room.

5.                  Teach your children the value of money and the importance of saving

6.                  Take your kids to Zoo.

7.                  Attend your children’s sports day

8.                  When a child falls and grazes knee / elbow.  Show concern then take the time to kiss it and make it better.

9.                  Read, Sing, and listen to your children.

10.             Let your children over hear you saying complimentary things about them to other people.

11.             Work hard to create in your children good self image.  It’s the most important thing you can do to insure success

12.             When playing games with children, let them win.

13.             Hug children after your discipline them.

RELATIVES

1.                  Surprise loved ones with unexpected gifts.

2.                  Be tactful

3.                  Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital.

MANNERISMS ETC

1.                  Wear polished shoes always.

2.                  Floss your teeth.

3.                  Take out the rubbish without having told.

4.                  Keep your desk and work area neat & clean.

5.                  Have impeccable manners.

6.                  Don’t you use a toothpick in public.

7.                  Compliment a meal, when you are a guest in someone’s home.

8.                  Give thanks before every meal.

9.                  Stand up when greeting a visitor to your office.

10.             Never eat the last piece of cake.

11.             Compliment even a small improvement.

KNOWLEDGE OF MUST

1.                  Be insatiably curious ask ‘why’ a lot.

2.                  Know how to drive a car.

3.                  Learn to handle pistol & rifle safely.

4.                  Learn to change a tyre, handle handsaw, hammer and nails.

5.                  Reread your favorite book.

6.                  Turn on your head lights when it begins to rain.

7.                  Don’t drive on worn tyres

8.                  Don’t ever lend your veh to one who does not posses a valid license and don’t drive if you are not carrying one.  Ensure your veh is insured.

9.                  Don’t drive on someone’s tail.

10.             Learn how to operate computers

11.             Lodge a FIR if you met with an accident.  If you are injured tell somebody to file FIR, if Mob has turned up escape to save yourself.

12.             Don’t remove the veh or its position for Police has to inspect (If not your fault)

13.             If accident note down the veh number of other party.  Inform insurance company and your lawyer and Police    

PEOPLE

1. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
2. Avoid negative People.
3. Be suspicious of all politicians.
4. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
5. Let people know what you stand for and what you won’t stand for.
6. Lend only that book you never care to see it again.
7.  Never argue with police officer and address them as officer.
8. Beware of the person who has nothing to loose.
9. Don’t be deceived by first impression.
10.  Never pay for work before it’s completed.
11. Resist giving advice concerning marriage, finances or hairstyle.
12. Don’t believe people when they ask you to be honest with them.
13.  Every person you meet knows something you don’t; learn from them.
14. Never discuss money with people who have much more or much less then you.
15. Be wary about people who tell you how honest they are.
16. Be there when people need you.

LIFESTYLE

1. Own a great music system.
2. Drive inexpensive car/ vehicle but own a good house
3. Buy great books even you don’t read them.
4. Keep a torch.
5. Keep a daily journal.
6. Don’t expect money to give you happiness.
7. Discipline yourself to save money. It’s essential for success.
8. Don’t think that a higher price always mean higher quality.
9. Wear expensive shoes, ties, belts but buy them from sale.
10. Remember three important things when buying a home location, location, location.

Two Frogs

One day, two frogs were enjoying the day in the barn when they accidentally fell into the farmer's bucket of cream, and they couldn't get out. The two frogs kept swimming around to keep from drowning, and every once in a while this was becoming very tiring. One frog kept saying, "This is useless, we should just give up."

But the other frog just ignored the comment and kept swimming. Finally the pessimistic frog gave up and drowned. The other frog was sad at the loss of his friend, but he wasn't going to give up. He kept swimming and swimming, and finally, the cream turned into butter and frog simply climbed out.

The story shows that even if we stumble and others try to pull us down, we got to keep on swimming because, eventually, the cream will turn into butter and we will make it out of the pail.

Challenges...

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades. So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish. If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh. The Japanese did not like the taste.

To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. owever, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen nd they did not like frozen fish. The
frozen fish brought a lower rice.

So fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin. After a little hrashing around, the fish stopped moving. They were tired and dull, but alive.

Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference. Because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste. The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish.

So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan?

To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks. But now they add a small shark to each tank. The shark eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state.

The fish are challenged.

As soon as you reach your goals, such as finding a wonderful mate, starting a successful company, paying off your debts or whatever, you might lose your passion. You don't need to work so hard so you relax.
Like the Japanese fish problem, the best solution is simple. It was observed by L. Ron Hubbard in the early 1950's. "Man thrives, oddly enough, only in the presence of a challenging environment."

The Benefits of a Challenge

The more intelligent, persistent and competent you are, the more you enjoy a good problem. If your challenges are the correct size, and if you are steadily conquering those challenges, you are happy. You think of your challenges and get energized. You are excited to try new solutions. You have fun. You are alive!
Instead of avoiding challenges, jump into them. Beat the heck out of them. Enjoy the game.

If your challenges are too large or too numerous, do not give up. Failing makes you tired. Instead, reorganize. Find more determination, more knowledge, more help.

Don't create success and lie in it. You have resources, skills and abilities to make a difference.

Put a shark in your tank and see how far you can really go!

The non human...

From the stygian skies of the winter, the sun appeared as a prodigious ball of fire, erupting out its glinting and razor-sharp rays, lightening the murky conditions and scattering the wintry mist. At a snail's pace I came out of my old fashioned bed and went straight towards the balcony, just to feel the warmth of the sun prevailing in those chilly conditions. The mercury dipped the whole week and today was no better. Although no cold winds were blowing, but the blanket of coldness had engulfed the city making my shiny teeth to clatter in different musical tones.

Now my eyes searched the street in front of my house for Raghu, the lunatic. Though I’ve no special predilection for the insane, but Raghu was different. He once saved my life, by jumping into the river in which I had accidentally fallen. That act of humanity changed my life and we became sort of friends. I regularly meet him, helping him with food and other necessities. No one is aware of our little relationship and seriously I don’t want anybody to know about it. For I belong to those elite group of men who would engage in a forbidden relationship such as this, but would never express it to the world, for that defies the position in society they have. 

And finally I could see him walking barefoot on the ice cold asphalt road, wearing nothing but and aged cloak that too tattered from nearly all places. His hairs were so long that they nearly kissed the road. But still I couldn’t see any signs of the grotesque cold troubling him and seeing how valiantly he was facing the frigid conditions, the music stopped from my mouth. He was laughing at every person who turned up in that busy street. And then as soon as his eyes caught mine the barmy laughter turned into a pleasing smile. I tried to return him a smile but the mere sight of my neighbour stopped me from doing so. Mr. Sharma was looking directly at me as if I had done a perilous crime by looking at the lunatic. Then my eyes, which were fixed on the lunatic soon changed their direction as I looked the dark skies, looming like death above my head. My eyes were then forced to look back again at the street as the clamorous sound of screeching brakes reached my ears. I saw a car hitting the left knee of Raghu, forcing him to fly in air for a split second and then with a loud thud he fell on the well-built road. Blood soon trickled out of the injured knee, thick and red, as pure as mine and as pure as the others. Loosing no time Mr. Sharma and I reached the injured lunatic. A large mass of people had gathered around the broken body. A large volume of blood had amassed nearby Raghu and the volume augmented every coming second.  Jul 15 Yadav Act III: 

The driver of the car was none other than Pankaj, son of Mr. Sharma. He came out red-hot; fumes of anger came out of his face giving a scary appearance to his already hideous face. And then looking directly towards Raghu he said in a high tempered voice

‘You son of a pig, don’t you know that the road is meant for vehicles and not for crazy, lunatic and insane people like you. You deserve to die, but who the hell told you get yourself killed by my car.’ And then pointing to the broken car he continued 

‘You street dog, look what you’ve done to my car and rest assure I am not going to take you to the hospital. You are born to die and you will die you…’

And I was not astounded to find the people nodding their heads in approval; it looked as if in the market of this society the price of the metal was greater than that of blood. Mr. Sharma tried to calm Pankaj, but he went away kicking the stone that lay in his path. Raghu tried to get up but every time he did so he fell on the ground. No one helped him and he remained there motionless, desperately trying to get up but with no avail. But still he had the smile…

I tried to open my mouth in protest but the feeling that no one would agree with me forced my lips to stick to each other. And when the world is deaf its better to be dumb. The fire of my protest soon turned into ashes, which diffused in the air leaving no clue about it. No one including me even tried to help him for we all were humans and he was a lunatic…

I went upstairs, but he remained there, motionless and drenched with blood. The lunatics are not for the world and the world is certainly not from them.  

Even the rays of the refulgent sun failed to alleviate the aura of darkness casing my soul, composed of the culpability and resentment in me. My false ideals came before me and vanished in thin air. The very purpose of my existence ceased. 

And from that day I never saw him again, everyday my eyes searched frantically for him. But he seemed to be lost in the world of the inhuman humans…

A few months later 

I started my new car and then turning on the music I went away blissfully to attend the wedding ceremony of my distant cousin. The dimness of the dark night plus the heavy fog made it near impossible for me to drive. Hence I was forced to drive slowly, an art, which in fact I had never learnt. For a moment I took my eyes away off my track. I didn’t notice a handicap man crossing the road and bumped the car into him. The man flew a good few meters besides the road. I quickly jumped out of my car. When I went closer and saw his face I was appalled for it looked vaguely similar and it took me no time to identify him- Raghu. The first accident made him loose his left leg and now his right leg was broken and bleeding badly. 

‘Luckily’ Mr. Sharma and his son Pankaj were passing by. They came towards me and seeing the plight of the lunatic they understood the complexity of the problem. 

Pankaj said

‘So it has happened again. History has an uncanny knack of repeating itself. Uncle I told you that day, this lunatic is nuisance. I am sure it was his mistake’

I tried to speak the truth but I couldn’t and nodding my head I replied in a low voice uncharacteristic of my attitude

‘Yes, it was his mistake. He was walking carelessly’ I couldn’t say anything more as words found it difficult to come out of my erroneous mouth. My mouth dried up and my tongue stuck to the lower most part of my mouth. 

And then Mr. Sharma said patting hard on my back

‘Don’t worry Mr. Yadav, you continue your journey. Let this putrid pig fester here. Someone will take care of him just as it happened last time. Serves him jolly right.’

My watery eyes met Raghu’s. I could see a glimpse of hope in them. He wanted that someone to be me. He wanted me to save his life just as he had saved mine nearly a year ago. But I didn’t and went away walking briskly towards my car. He was still smiling and that smile haunted me all my way.  Jul 15 Yadav Act III: 

I was left being mortified at my state of despondency. The dance of life was being presented before my eyes, veracious in every facet, where humanity was a mirage and I was a part of it. Selfishness, which was copiously strewed, appeared to rule and the tactful society was the ruler. The invidious crime that I had done couldn’t be exculpated on the grounds of my false ideals but by the simple fact that in today’s modern world, man has been chained by the false conventions of the society, which have reduced his capacity to think and act in the right way. And till such chains are not broken the society will continue to justify crimes such as this, because for it the wrong is the right.

My desolated soul was laughing madly at me. My highly set moral values tumbled down to the ground. Maybe if I had helped him, he wouldn’t have lost his legs. Whenever I look myself in the mirror, I see not a human but a devil snaring out his fangs filled with the poison of social obligations.

Although he was a lunatic, he was still a human and I being a human was still a selfish demon.

The mercury is still dipping. I still stroll out in my balcony to feel the warmth of the smouldering sun. Raghu still saunters in the street, even without his legs. He still laughs at the people and he still smiles at me…