She is a girl...

She  is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as Human as you are;

 One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;

 One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

 One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name;

 One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen;

 One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding,  

 One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities; 

yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, Even though you say otherwise

 One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like Yours are to be met;

 One, who is doing her level best And wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a Grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;

 One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she Knows in your entire house - your unstilted support, your sensitivities And most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

 But not many guys understand this...

Glass Of Milk

             One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one dime left, and he was hungry. He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"

            "You don't owe me anything, "she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept payment for a kindness." He said, "Then I thank you from my heart."
              As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was also stronger. He had been ready to give up and quit. Years later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr Howard kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled in his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down to the hall of the hospital  to her room. Dressed in his doctor's gown he went to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case. After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, and then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She began to read the following words: "Paid in full with one glass of milk".

Signed,
Dr Kelly

Tips For Life.... Must Follow...

SELF RESPECT / SELF ESTEEM / SELF IMAGE / PROJECTION

1.                  Look people in the eye.

2.                  Say thank you a lot, please a lot, write thank you notes promptly

3.                  Plant flowers every spring, plant a tree on your Birthday

4.                  Be the first to say hello

5.                  If in a fight hit first hit hard

6.                  Keep Secrets

7.                  Show respect to teachers and Military persons

8.                  Never mention being on diet

9.                  Smile a lot, It costs nothing and is beyond price

10.             Introduce yourself to the manager where you bank.  It’s important that he/she knows you personally.

11.             Don’t waste time responding to your critics

12.             Have a good posture.  Enter room with purpose and confidence

13.             Think twice before burdening a friend with secret

14.             Respect traditions

15.             Show respect for others time.  Call whenever you’re going to be more than ten minutes late for an appointment

16.             Patronize local shops even if it costs a bit more.

17.             Get and stay in shape (Physically and Mentally)

18.             Don’t bore people with your problems.  When someone asks you how you feel say “Terrific” , When they ask how your business say “Excellent”

19.             When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten up everyone’s day.

20.             Evaluate yourself by your own standards, not someone else’s

21.             Be a leader : Remember the one in front is the only one with a decent forward view.

22.             Never admit at work that you’re tired, angry or bored.

23.             Be prepared you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.

24.             Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

ATTITUDE

1.                  Compliment three people every day

2.                  Have a firm handshake

3.                  Live beneath your means

4.                  Return all things you borrow

5.                  Keep a tight rein on your temper

6.                  Praise in public, criticise in private

7.                  Avoid sarcastic remarks

8.                  Never cheat

9.                  Never deprive someone of hope : it might be all they have

10.             Turn off the television when eating

11.             Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel like it

12.             Learn to show enthusiasm even when you don’t feel like it

13.             Don’t gossip, don’t discuss salaries

14.             Be courteous to every one

15.             Don’t be afraid to say, I don’t know, I made a mistake, I need help, I am sorry etc.

16.             When planning to go abroad, read about places you will visit

17.             Don’t insist on running someone else life

18.             Begin each day with some of your favorite music

IMPROVEMENT OF SELF

1.                  Be a student on some kind of class

2.                  Avoid over exposure to sun

3.                  Ride a bike

4.                  Think big thoughts but relish small pleasures

5.                  Take a brisk 30 min walk every day

6.                  Stop and read, historical roadside markers

7.                  Learn a foreign language

8.                  Pray not for things but for wisdom and courage

9.                  Be punctual and insist it on others

10.             Lie on to your back and look up at the stars 

11.             Drink eight glasses of water every day

12.             Never give up on what you really want to do.  The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts

13.             Be tough minded but tender hearted

14.             Practice empathy. Try to see things from other peoples point of view

15.             See problems as opportunities for growth & self mastery

16.             Judge your success by the degree that you are enjoying peace, love and health

17.             Refrain from envy.  It’s the source of much happiness

18.             When there’s no time for full work out do push ups

19.             Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you will regret things you didn’t do more than the ones you did

20.             Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table.  Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs

21.             Be open to new ideas

22.             Set short term and long term goals

23.             Turn off the tap each time you brush your teeth

24.             Own a good dictionary and thesaurus.

MEMORIES

1.                  Take lots of snaps

2.                  Don’t postpone joy

3.                  Take family holidays whether you can afford or not.  The memories will be priceless

ACTIONS

1.                  Give yourself an hour to cool off before responding to someone who has provoked you.

2.                  Pay your bills on time always.

3.                  Have a regular medical and dental check up.

4.                  Fill your fuel tank when it falls below one quarter full

5.                  Don’t plan a long evening on a blind date.  A lunch date is perfect, if things don’t work out, both of you have only wasted an hour.

6.                  Never take action when you are angry

7.                  When paying cash, ask for discount

8.                  Hear both sides before judging

9.                  When traveling put a card self addressed with phone number in your wallet

10.             Don’t be intimidated by doctors and nurses.  When you are in the hospital it’s still your body.

11.             Don’t flush public toilets with your hand, use your elbow.

12.             Save 10% of what you earn

13.             Respond promptly to RSVP invitation.  If there is phone call if not write a note.

14.             Before leaving to meet a flight call the airline first to be sure it’s on time.

FRIENDS

1.                  Make new friends but cherish old ones

2.                  Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

3.                  Be your spouse’s best friend.

4.                  Keep good company

5.                  Be tactful never alienate any one on purpose

6.                  Never walk out on a quarrel with your partner

7.                  Everyday look for small thing or way to improve your marriage

8.                  Save an evening a week for just you and your partner

9.                  Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital

10.             When you and your partner have a disagreement, regardless of who’s at fault / wrong apologize.  Say I am sorry.  I upset you would you forgive me?  These are healing magic words.

11.             Never give a loved one a gift that suggests they need improvement.

12.             Be cautious about lending money to friends.  You might loose both.

13.             Choose your life mate carefully. 90% of happiness comes from this decision.

BUISSINESS/ PROFESSION/ JOB

1.                  Stop blaming others.  Take responsibility for every area of your life.

2.                  Read carefully anything that requires a signature.

3.                  Don’t quit a job until you are lined up another

4.                  Never criticize the person who signs your pay cheque.  If you are unhappy with your job, resign.

5.                  Remember that 80% of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.

6.                  Learn to listen.  Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly.

7.                  Keep your watch five minutes fast.

8.                  Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years

9.                  Be tactful.  Never alienate anyone on purpose

10.             Never admit at work that you are tired, angry or bored.

11.             Remember no one makes it alone.  Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who help you

12.             Everyday look for some small way the way you do you’re job.

13.             Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed side table.  Million dollar ideas sometimes strike at 0300hrs.

14.             Have a good posture, Enter room with a purpose & confidence

15.             Be insatiably curious.  Ask why a lot?

CHILDREN

1.                  Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring & integrity they think of you.

2.                  Encourage your children to have a part time job after the age of sixteen

3.                  Tell your kids often, how terrific they are and that you trust them

4.                  Respect your children’s privacy.  Knock the door before entering their room.

5.                  Teach your children the value of money and the importance of saving

6.                  Take your kids to Zoo.

7.                  Attend your children’s sports day

8.                  When a child falls and grazes knee / elbow.  Show concern then take the time to kiss it and make it better.

9.                  Read, Sing, and listen to your children.

10.             Let your children over hear you saying complimentary things about them to other people.

11.             Work hard to create in your children good self image.  It’s the most important thing you can do to insure success

12.             When playing games with children, let them win.

13.             Hug children after your discipline them.

RELATIVES

1.                  Surprise loved ones with unexpected gifts.

2.                  Be tactful

3.                  Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital.

MANNERISMS ETC

1.                  Wear polished shoes always.

2.                  Floss your teeth.

3.                  Take out the rubbish without having told.

4.                  Keep your desk and work area neat & clean.

5.                  Have impeccable manners.

6.                  Don’t you use a toothpick in public.

7.                  Compliment a meal, when you are a guest in someone’s home.

8.                  Give thanks before every meal.

9.                  Stand up when greeting a visitor to your office.

10.             Never eat the last piece of cake.

11.             Compliment even a small improvement.

KNOWLEDGE OF MUST

1.                  Be insatiably curious ask ‘why’ a lot.

2.                  Know how to drive a car.

3.                  Learn to handle pistol & rifle safely.

4.                  Learn to change a tyre, handle handsaw, hammer and nails.

5.                  Reread your favorite book.

6.                  Turn on your head lights when it begins to rain.

7.                  Don’t drive on worn tyres

8.                  Don’t ever lend your veh to one who does not posses a valid license and don’t drive if you are not carrying one.  Ensure your veh is insured.

9.                  Don’t drive on someone’s tail.

10.             Learn how to operate computers

11.             Lodge a FIR if you met with an accident.  If you are injured tell somebody to file FIR, if Mob has turned up escape to save yourself.

12.             Don’t remove the veh or its position for Police has to inspect (If not your fault)

13.             If accident note down the veh number of other party.  Inform insurance company and your lawyer and Police    

PEOPLE

1. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
2. Avoid negative People.
3. Be suspicious of all politicians.
4. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
5. Let people know what you stand for and what you won’t stand for.
6. Lend only that book you never care to see it again.
7.  Never argue with police officer and address them as officer.
8. Beware of the person who has nothing to loose.
9. Don’t be deceived by first impression.
10.  Never pay for work before it’s completed.
11. Resist giving advice concerning marriage, finances or hairstyle.
12. Don’t believe people when they ask you to be honest with them.
13.  Every person you meet knows something you don’t; learn from them.
14. Never discuss money with people who have much more or much less then you.
15. Be wary about people who tell you how honest they are.
16. Be there when people need you.

LIFESTYLE

1. Own a great music system.
2. Drive inexpensive car/ vehicle but own a good house
3. Buy great books even you don’t read them.
4. Keep a torch.
5. Keep a daily journal.
6. Don’t expect money to give you happiness.
7. Discipline yourself to save money. It’s essential for success.
8. Don’t think that a higher price always mean higher quality.
9. Wear expensive shoes, ties, belts but buy them from sale.
10. Remember three important things when buying a home location, location, location.

Two Frogs

One day, two frogs were enjoying the day in the barn when they accidentally fell into the farmer's bucket of cream, and they couldn't get out. The two frogs kept swimming around to keep from drowning, and every once in a while this was becoming very tiring. One frog kept saying, "This is useless, we should just give up."

But the other frog just ignored the comment and kept swimming. Finally the pessimistic frog gave up and drowned. The other frog was sad at the loss of his friend, but he wasn't going to give up. He kept swimming and swimming, and finally, the cream turned into butter and frog simply climbed out.

The story shows that even if we stumble and others try to pull us down, we got to keep on swimming because, eventually, the cream will turn into butter and we will make it out of the pail.

Challenges...

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades. So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish. If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh. The Japanese did not like the taste.

To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. owever, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen nd they did not like frozen fish. The
frozen fish brought a lower rice.

So fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin. After a little hrashing around, the fish stopped moving. They were tired and dull, but alive.

Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference. Because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste. The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish.

So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan?

To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks. But now they add a small shark to each tank. The shark eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state.

The fish are challenged.

As soon as you reach your goals, such as finding a wonderful mate, starting a successful company, paying off your debts or whatever, you might lose your passion. You don't need to work so hard so you relax.
Like the Japanese fish problem, the best solution is simple. It was observed by L. Ron Hubbard in the early 1950's. "Man thrives, oddly enough, only in the presence of a challenging environment."

The Benefits of a Challenge

The more intelligent, persistent and competent you are, the more you enjoy a good problem. If your challenges are the correct size, and if you are steadily conquering those challenges, you are happy. You think of your challenges and get energized. You are excited to try new solutions. You have fun. You are alive!
Instead of avoiding challenges, jump into them. Beat the heck out of them. Enjoy the game.

If your challenges are too large or too numerous, do not give up. Failing makes you tired. Instead, reorganize. Find more determination, more knowledge, more help.

Don't create success and lie in it. You have resources, skills and abilities to make a difference.

Put a shark in your tank and see how far you can really go!